Help, I Need An Adult!

A Little Refresher

In the 60+ posts I made private last year, I often spoke about the “manic episodes” I go through. I’m not sure if that’s what they really are. I just know that for a few short days every month or so (if I’m lucky,) a darkness lifts from my soul. Suddenly I have energy. My mind is clear, and even if I still falter to ADHD brain from time to time, I know what needs to be done, and I do it. I clean, I write, I draw. I become the mother I always wanted and that I know my daughter needs.

It only lasts a couple of days. 5 at most. And for those few short days, I feel like a real person and not the drifting husk of the person I could have been if someone had given a damn about me in my formative years.

I can’t tell which side of me is the real me and which side is the defect in my brain. I’ve lived most of my life in a darkness that I can’t control, but the feeling when that darkness lifts is better than any other sensation I’ve ever felt. It’s like wearing 50 lbs of wool clothes in the dead of summer and then stripping down to my underwear in the shade of an old tree. Total freedom.

The worst part about this “manic episode” is when it starts to slip away and I feel the darkness creeping over me in real time. I can’t describe how much it hurts to go from carefree and mellow to hopeless and painfully aware of the world around me in a matter of minutes.

I’m day 3 today. I hope I don’t crash until after work, when I’m able to thrown on my PJs, wrap up in a blanket, and hold my daughter as she sings to me all those little songs she’s recently learned.

I don’t want it to go away.

Update: It’s the day after I wrote this. I forgot to post it and it sat in my drafts all night. I felt my energy drain some time last night, after I got home from work, made dinner, and was walking on my treadmill. I’m trying very hard to fight it. My daughter wants to go outside and play in the snow. My body says no, but I told her we’d get bundled up and go out as soon as I finished my coffee.

It’s going to be a day.

Correction

My toddler would like me to issue an urge to correction regarding her 3D printed dragon:

“It’s not Watermelon, it’s SPIKY WATERMELON.”

I wish to issue an apology to Spiky Watermelon and her family, seen in the photo below. I did not mean to get your name wrong.

From left to right: Baby Unicorn, Mama Dog, Baby Dog, Gabby (Gabby’s Dollhouse,) Cup Of Tea (Mrs. Potts,) and Spiky Watermelon.

Watermelon the Slop Dragon supervises my failed attempt to write a new chapter.

New Year, Same Overthinking

A few days ago, I checked my bank account to see that WordPress had taken out its yearly dues. And at first I had considered asking for a refund and going back to a basic account, but I remembered my plans for this blog. I was going to keep up with it and make money with it and showcase my art writing on it. And some delusional part of my brain keeps thinking I can do it. So here I am, once again writing something out of obligation and not because I want to.

Earlier last year I unpublished most of the entries I had posted here because I felt like I was too vulnerable with a handful of strangers I will probably never meet. But all I want to do right now is bitch about myself and my life, knowing that no one of importance to my life will ever see it. I used to fear my friends and family finding my old Reddit accounts where I bitched about everything, including my mental health. But recently I realized that none of them care. Nobody’s looking me up on Google or reading my stories. My art gets a quick glance and an “oh, neat!” if or when I draw. And the chances of me ever getting famous or at least known are slim to none, so I might as well just put my feelings out there, at least this one time, before bottling them up and sealing them away.

I used to be the queen of overthinking. I actually believe overthinking was part of how I managed to be so creative when I was younger. But it was a double-edged sword. Overthinking a story meant more details and a clearer plot. Overthinking my life meant ruining relationships, spikes in anxiety, lost opportunities, etc.

Eventually, I managed to push it all aside. Instead of overthinking, I learned to disassociate. In a way, this did me some good. It also causes me a lot of harm. My creativity took a nosedive. I started to second-guess things, from my ability to draw to everyday things like cleaning and caring for myself. I often find myself stuck in this state of paralysis where I can’t do anything except sit and stare at the clock in between doing the bare minimum to keep my child, my animals, and myself alive.

You need to draw, I hear myself say. But I can’t. I’m afraid I’ll fuck it up.

Then you need to write. Nobody’s going to read it. How many times have I asked friends and family to read just one chapter, and they couldn’t be bothered?

Well then, get up and clean. I can’t move, and I don’t know why.

Go outside. I don’t want people to see me.

Talk to someone. I’m a burden, and nobody really likes me. I can see it in their eyes any time I open my mouth.

Oh. I guess that is overthinking, isn’t it? It never really went away, did it? I just found a way to quiet it down. I know it doesn’t sound like it, but my brain is much quieter than it used to be, and I’m afraid that very soon, I’ll never be able to create something ever again.

I’m afraid. I’m afraid that nobody actually loves me, that my daughter will grow up to hate me, that I’ll end up alone, that I’m a bad mother, a bad wife, a bad person, that my friends all talk about me behind my back, that I’m becoming just as miserable, spiteful, and clueless as my parents, and that I’m the butt of everyone’s jokes because of it.

If you got this far, I’m so sorry you had to read all that. There is no point to this blog entry except to vent. I don’t think I’ll do this again, at least not under my real name. My next post will be about something I make or do or see.

Friday Morning Word Vomit

It’s funny how, by the time the air starts to chill and the leaves start to fall, I completely forget how badly autumn and winter terrorize my struggling immune system. I always seem to forget the perpetual cold or flu that keeps me down about 80% of the season, remembering instead only the happy parts of the colder months. The hot drinks and warm sweaters, cuddling my husband in front of a fire, holidays, festivals, and markets. Then the first cold hits, and I have to break out my nebulizer because Covid ravaged my once healing lungs and I won’t survive the winter without my albuterol.

I think I’ll be lucky if I see 65 the way things are going.

I got a new job. Part-time. I don’t like it. Yes, it’s true, I don’t like to work. Or, at least, I don’t like to work the jobs society deems appropriate for someone like me. Lately I’ve been focusing more on my writing, and that’s how I want to make my living. I have this fantasy where my husband’s band gets signed, gets big, and I can spend my days raising my child and doing creative things in relative comfort.

It feels wrong to dream about it, mainly because I know that it’s not realistic or statistically likely to happen. Out of the millions of creatives around the world, what gives me the right to think I can make it? Sure, I could have a solid 15 minutes, after which I’d fade back into obscurity, back to retail, back to being chronically sick every winter because my body can’t handle constant human interaction like a normal body can.

I think what bothers me the most about that fantasy is that it feels like it has too much in common with the American individualist fantasy that paints the common blue-collar worker as a temporarily inconvenienced billionaire. If he just works harder, he can join that big club. He’s really one of them, you know. That’s why he doesn’t care about the homeless or the immigrant or the starving child. Their existence only drags him down.

I don’t have that mindset, but having my own fantasy about pulling my family out of poverty almost feels like a betrayal to others like me. Any time I find myself scheming up ways to get my daughter into the best school in the state because I want her to be safe and well educated, I recoil, disgusted with myself for even considering mingling with that lifestyle.

Lately, I’ve been feeling more confident. I’ve gotten it in my mind that maybe I can get all my stories done and published. I could make connections. I’ve found it mind-bogglingly easy to talk to certain people, something I’ve never been able to do before. I prefer friendships over career connections, but I know that’s how the world works, as much as I hate it.

Sometimes I think I’m dying, and I’m terrified I’ll die before I get any of my stories finished. I think about sitting down one day and writing out detailed plots and character sheets, just in case I croak. My family can pull a V.C. Andrews and live comfortably on whatever a ghostwriter pumps out. I’ve been posting finished (albeit rough and unedited) chapters of various stories on my VampFreaks (not, not VampireFreaks) blog before I post/publish them elsewhere. Just in case.

Anyway, I have to get ready for work. Another thing I forget I hate about this season is the emphasis on capitalism. The busier the closer the holidays get, the ruder the customers get. And when you work a retail job that involves big spenders, you’re further reminded why you hate the wealthy.

Eat the rich, y’all.

I put this in my drafts and forgot to publish it. It’s now Monday morning. 🤘🏻🤦🏻‍♀️

Eulogy for MAGA

In accordance with Charlie Kirk’s beliefs, I will not be feeling, displaying, or faking empathy for him at this time. I will, however, express my sympathy for his children and pray to whatever deity may or may not exist that they do not follow down the same path as their father. Thoughts and prayers. There’s simply nothing that can be done to prevent this senseless violence. Etc. Etc.

A New Phase

To the dozen or so people who subscribe to this blog, I apologize for my absence. My only explanation is a mixture of laziness, depression, and forgetfulness.

If you’ve been following my blog for any length of time, you may have noticed that nearly every post is gone. I archived 62 posts spanning over the past couple years because I felt like I lost sight of what this blog was meant to be. I wanted it to be a place to showcase my art and writing, to post parenting related content, adulting content, good memories with my family, etc. Instead, it became a receptacle for unhinged rants and self loathing.

I don’t like who I am. I don’t think I ever really have, as evident by the numerous posts I’ve deleted not just here, but on Reddit and Wattpad and old blogs and YouTube. I’m constantly trying to reinvent myself to no avail. And I’m always a bitch, even when I don’t mean to be.

As I continue to try and once again reinvent myself or maybe better myself, I’m going to focus on what this blog was meant to be. I will draw more, write more, share experiences that aren’t marred with negative tones and self-pity. I’m sorry that it got so out of hand.

Hanging Out With One Of The Few Elusive Elder Goths Left In Delaware

He said he used to be roommates with Morrissey. Called him a cunt. 🤘🏻

Paper Ornament Templates

Hiya! You’re either here because you clicked the link from my YouTube video, Adventures In Making A Cat-Proof Christmas Tree or you’re on of my blog followers who are wondering why I’m posting this and not my usual depressing and weird pity party content.

Here are the templates for the paper ornaments I made. They’d also make pretty good coloring pages for the kiddos, so feel free to use, copy and share them. Just don’t try to make money off of them (if you even could??)

To get the best quality images, right click on each picture, click “copy image link,” past the link into your address bar and hit enter. Save the pictures from there.